How To Be A Stressed less Courage Queen

It is quite common for Courage Queens to suffer from stress. Stress can creep up on us all and if not caught early can lead to more severe symptoms such as anxiety, depression and even panic attacks.

Common physical symptoms of stress are low energy, headaches and other bodily aches including upset stomach, chest pains and insomnia. Emotional symptoms include constant worrying, over analysing and an inability to rest and relax. Feeling overwhelmed and coming to tears easily are also signs.

I’m actually a fan of Stress, as when I am stressed I know it is simply a call from my body to remind me to ‘stop’. I know I need to ‘stop’ and assess how much I am trying to cram onto my plate of life.

I need to ask, why am I trying to be superhuman and overload myself with tasks and responsibilities, worrying that I don’t have time to do it all?

Stress makes me stop and ask ‘What is the worst that can happen right now’?  I often realise nothing!

Take a moment to list: What or who do you feel responsible for right now?

Write on a piece of paper

I feel responsible for…..

And see what comes into your head. Keep going until you have run out of answers. Are you taking more than your fair share of responsibility for life events? Who can you ask for help from? Courage Queens know we can ask for help.

It is easy to turn to alcohol, tobacco or drugs to ease the stress, however, this can make the symptoms worse as we are not looking at the root cause of what is causing the stress. Courage Queens are courageous enough to get to the root cause of the problem.

Courage Queens can become stressed by:

1) Others in our life who make continual demands of us.

2) A change in our life, which has been forced upon us.

3) Changes, which we have put ourselves through.

4) Trying to cope with the challenges of life.

To help reduce your mental stress:

List everything you are worried about or feel overwhelmed with.

  • From this list, identify whom you or what you have no control over and you personally cannot affect or change the situation – write next to each one – ‘I let these worries go’. Remember you are not God; let other adults take responsibility for their own life.
  • Next, make one action point for each worry which you do have control over. This action point should be a positive step forward to eliminate the worry – maybe you need to seek outside support or commit to sorting it?
  • It is often helpful to get a fresh unbiased perspective on the situation –even asking a friend for their advice can be helpful or seeking coaching or counselling support.
  • Have some ‘You’ time – even taking a walk outside will make a difference or download an app, which will help you relax. Glenn Harrold’s visualisations are very effective.

Learning to manage our stressors is a skill in itself, however, Courage Queens face their fears and look at what is not working in their life. My book ‘How to be a Courage Queen’ gives practical ways to manage your stress.