I have a Ph.D in worrying, well I used to. I would worry about everything, the past, the present but most of all the future. If I was worrying about something then I thought I was in control. It took me a long time to realise worrying was using up valuable time which I could be using to make courageous decisions in my life.

I trawled my way through self-help books trying to find the secret of how to stop worrying for good.  I failed to find the solution, however I did learn that by the nature of being human I will worry.  I will worry because I am human and humans have fear inbuilt as a safety mechanism to ensure their survival.

It is our fear which makes us worry.

Yes it is natural to worry but we need to be able to get a hold of our worries, in effect we manage them, rather than our worries managing us. We manage our fear instead of our fear managing us.

I have a coping mechanism to help me manage my worries.

Here’s how I do it – try it yourself.

  • I write down what I’m worrying about and what  I think is going to happen
  • I then ask myself, what evidence do I have this ‘disaster’ is going to come true?
  • I ask what advice would I give my best friend if she had this worry – then I listen to that advice!
  • I then ask what action can I take to prevent the thing that I think is going to happen not happen?
  • I then take the action using courage. I may not reach the solution but I take one step forward
  • After taking the action, whatever the action is and whatever the outcome is, I then use the experience to learn from and make myself a stronger, more emotionally resilient person.

I find that when I take action to resolve the situation, then it helps me feel as though I am doing something about it. It empowers me to take control. This is real courage – taking action to handle the unknown

Download my free Stop Worrying form here to help you combat your worries.

This is just one of many techniques that we can use to help fear disappear. I also use spirit and faith. Check out my blogs in the Spirit, Faith & Meaning Category.

So take action now by completing the form and learn to manage your worries – you can do it!

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