I once enrolled on a course which was one afternoon a week for 8 weeks long. I started the course as I believed it would help me in my job.
After two weeks:
- I hated going to the classes
- Would moan about the tutor
- Not do my homework
- Dread the Monday when the class came around
- Moan to anyone who would listen to me about it
- Be disruptive in the class
- Feel relieved when each Monday afternoon came to a close
One day I realised something had to change as I was making myself miserable. I realised I was acting like a rebellious 15 year old not a mature 32 year old.
I took a long hard look in the mirror at how I was behaving and thought, ‘Girl you need to get out of your own way’. The only person making this experience tough is you. I realised I had to ‘Quit or commit’.
Quit meant having the courage to stop going but not having any fear or remorse about quitting the course. Commit meant stopping all the childish powerless behaviours of above. It struck me I was an adult and I didn’t have to do it, no one was making me sit there.
I had the choice and power to change the experience
Committing meant having the courage to realise this would benefit me in the long run, be an active part of the group and complete my work to the best of my ability. I decided to commit 100% and as soon as I made the decision to commit, the course suddenly became enjoyable. My fellow class mates were good fun, I learnt some new techniques and I felt proud that I had changed the experience from negative to positive.
So if you find yourself in that position then ask yourself, do you want to quit or commit?
The choice is yours. Remember, often the most courageous action is being able to say,
‘this isn’t for me – I thought it was but I was mistaken’
Being able to walk away from a situation or circumstance which is causing you pain with self-belief and your head held high is one of the most courageous things you can do.
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